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Juliana Tomlinson


September 8, 2020


An important lesson I learned with my 2 year old son

A few weeks ago I was playing outside with my 2 year old son, Theo, on our backyard playground. The play set we got for him is used and a little old, and the wood let’s say… is not the best on the market. Hehe

So one day, Theo climbed up the little house to go down the slide when I noticed his hand was red and he was complaining a bit when I touched it. But that didn’t seem to stop him from playing. He was dealing with that not-so-bad pain in order to keep going, keep having fun on the playground. 

But when I closely examined his hand, I saw a wood chip stuck inside his skin. I knew if I didn’t remove it right away his little hand would get inflamed, the pain would be much worse and we could eventually end up in the hospital. So as a mother who wants the best for my son, I knew I needed to take that wood chip out of his hand. 

I took Theo inside, grabbed the tweezers and I had to poke a small whole in his skin. Then I started squeezing his hand. The wood chip would not come out so I kept squeezing it, poking his hand with the tweezers… while my little guy cried so so loudly that my in-laws who were in the backyard, could hear him.

Needless to say that my heart was broken for him. He was in pain, shaking his head side to side and asking me to stop, he was screaming and looking at me, the one he knows he can go to for comfort, with confusion and frustration because I was causing him more pain trying to remove the chip from his hand.

The problem is, I knew it was not good! Even if he could bear the uncomfortableness of having a wood chip inside his skin, I needed to infringe pain on him in order to keep him safe and free of any further pain in the future. 

Friend, a few months ago that was me. I was uncomfortable, something didn’t seem right but I couldn’t figure it out, I didn’t know what was wrong with me. Then, what was just something uncertain inside of me, became something very painful. I went through weeks of pain, confusion, feeling like a failure, like nothing I was doing was right or worthy… I felt like stopping. 

What I didn’t know is that I was going through the “squeeze phase”. Just like what I did to Theo, God was doing it to me. He knew that in order for me to find clarity and achieve better things, I needed to let go of what I was doing… and since I needed a little help, now I see He was just squeezing me, helping me to get rid of the “wood chip” that was inside, bothering me, but not enough to stop and seek clarity, but that if I continued on that path, it would lead me to greater pain. 

I don’t know where you stand today, but if you got to this point, you probably needed to read this message. And I want to say friend, now that I went through that experience and have clarity, I’m filled with hope for a great future and gratitude for that period of hurt and confusion. 

If you are going through the ” squeeze” phase, hang in there! I know it’s not pleasant, but with that can come a beautiful breakthrough for your life and for your business. Just do yourself a favor… DON’T GIVE UP because you feel squeezed, the best is yet to come! Use this time to surrender, to dive deep within yourself and ask God to help you achieve clarity!

And if you need help navigating through this time, please don’t hesitate to let me know! I can help you to achieve the clarity you may need to keep going. Just don’t give up! 

We’re in this together!!!

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